Punishment Vs Discipline

(Keep in mind the punishment dealt from the Residential Schools, prison systems, your own life, ect while reading this article)

The underlying message of punishment is “You can’t do this, you are bad for doing this”, while discipline says “This is what you can do. You can take pride in doing this”. Discipline delivers the message that punishment fails to get across – that one should make the best decisions for themselves and take responsibility for their actions.

Discipline retains people’s sense of choice and control. Depression and anger comes from feeling we have no choice and makes people feel like helpless victims or (dangerous) cornered wolves.

The root word for discipline is disciple or follower. This means you discipline through being the example without forcing anyone. By being the example without pressure (but providing necessary guidance of course), often people then make the best choices or even make other equally positive choices through positive Observational Learning.

The result is a developed self esteem and strong sense of identity and integrity. This sets the foundation that will enable people to aim high and achieve much with their lives. And when they get to that position, they can say “I did this, I made this happen. This is what I wanted to do”. This gives more sense of choice and control over life and pleasure which results in self esteem and happiness.

Happiness, joy, depression and aggression are directly controlled by your sense or lack of control over your pleasure and quality of life. If you feel like your life and future will only cause pain and you have no choice in the matter, you become either depressed or angry. We then look to steal, take, force or buy happiness at any cost. The result is drugs, alcohol, crime and violence.

When one feels like they have no control, one either passively suffers with depression or aggressively fights and resists in an attempt to regain control. Either choice only causes more negative situations, now and later, which then only compounds those bad feelings even further. This is where the downward spiral begins.

Your Ego is then created or strengthened for a sense of stability in a seemingly unpredictable, uncontrollable and hostile world. Ego causes the need to measure up to some external result, image or condition for a sense of identity, security and happiness.

The problem is that nothing external is forever. That means your Ego cause you suffering when things inevitably don’t go your way. Self esteem doesn’t need those external things to provide happiness. It’s all internal and completely under your control... your complete choice. You just need to understand how it’s created and sustained.

Principles, values, knowledge of Laws [cause and effect] and proven strategies provide the missing inner foundation for happiness, security, success and self esteem. All the rewards of taking responsibility over our inner life are wealth and fulfillment.

This is how to take further choice and control over your happiness and success – control that is not dependent on anything or anyone else. The upward spiral then begins – each accomplishment feeds into and magnifies the next and you become the sole creator of your happiness, respect and wealth.

To further add to the rewards, when one begins to get pleasure from taking the right actions, it adds the fuel and motivation needed to achieve many great things for ourselves and others. All these right actions flow naturally from living our Life Purpose. Living our Purpose then creates even more wealth, health, love and fulfillment.

But because of modern society and the Residential Schools, that negative Observational Learning has blinded people to these liberating facts. When you are so used to seeing life one way, it’s at first difficult to see it in another way – even if that way is more beneficial.

Permanent change is made possible considerably faster through guidance from mentors. This mentoring saves years of failure and frustration from not knowing where the obstacles and pitfalls are. Sometimes people try to change only to be met with failure after frustrating failure. A good mentor can eliminate this failure for good and speed the whole process up tremendously.

The tribal system we once had, made use of processes of change that have been refined over more than 10,000 years. Role models in the community provide the example and influences and improves the lives of the next generation through positive Observational Learning. This is why “it takes a village to raise a child”.

Constantly improving yourself helps tremendously because perfection is an illusion. Perfection makes our life situation a constant disappointment and makes your happiness dependent on things beyond your control and your sense of choice.

A healthy and satisfying view to life is aiming for excellence in your passion and Life Purpose. You may fall down and fail, but the goal is mastery, not a lack of failure (which is nearly impossible). Happiness then becomes the Journey, not some distant Destination that never will be reached. Your Purpose is everything you really want in life and in our day and age you can find nearly unlimited ways in expressing that purpose for the benefit of all of society. That kind of value is what people pay good money for.

This is also were your creativity comes into play. When you feel good about who you are, you allow your natural talents and gifts to come through. Your Purpose, self chosen values and soul’s creativity flourishes because you no longer holding onto those Egoic ways of judging yourself. You allow your true self to be and create new things of benefit for society. This is what’s really valuable to people because it’s so “rare” and “unique”. Modern society prevents many people from being their true selves.

Living your Purpose allows you to live in complete happiness, fulfillment and wealth. Money, those pieces of paper with ink on them, is simply used to exchange value. Your Life Purpose and passion naturally adds to the wellbeing of society – which is value for others and is why you can literally create huge amounts of wealth. Anyone can develop their talents and be given money in exchange for the valuable end result. But to stop growing to is to stop the natural flow of life and ‘death’ occurs. Muscles not exercised break down.

It’s common for people to feel bad when they realize they were working in the wrong direction or to think that they’re lives just got more complicated. In reality, their lives are complicated because of working against the laws of life for so long. Getting leverage means to do more with less and less. You just have to understand how it works and use it in the key areas.

But a lot of people never even realize these things and die unfulfilled and incomplete. You could possibly save yourself from literally decades of needless pain and suffering. And you can do so by taking advantage of the experience and knowledge of mentors who’ve already taken years to get there (saving you years of frustration and struggle). Your level of success, ultimately, is completely your choice.